So you are finally ready to try a dating site? But what are the pros and cons of doing so and what is the surest way to success with online dating UK?
What Are The Best Tips For Successful Online Dating?
SEIZE THE INITIATIVE
So you have been emailing each other back and forth, but no one seems to want to make the first move? Ideally, someone should be looking to ask someone out, within about four message exchanges. This is not as tricky as doing it face to face, which is the beauty of a dating site after all. What have you got to lose? If they don’t want to, at least it will wrap things up and you can move on. Of course there is always the possibility that they will say yes!
KEEP IT SIMPLE
When describing yourself in your profile, it helps to use clear, concise language. Not surprisingly, positive sounding screen names and nicknames elicit a better response than negative ones – ie ‘Happy Hannah’ is likely to do better than ‘Cross Chris’. Men are more likely to look twice at women who describe their looks in a positive light, while women are more interested in intelligence and other personal attributes.
BE PERSONAL.. BUT NOT TOO PERSONAL
In a nice way, of course. The one thing both men and women say that they respond poorly to is a generic or general sounding email that has been put out to hundreds of others. No one wants to feel like they’re getting a mail shot. Take the time to read their profiles. If this was real life and you were opening a conversation, it would be about something relevant to the time and place that you were both in. With online dating UK you don’t need that, but you do have information about all that person’s interests and hobbies – use it. Find something about that person and ask a question about it. Just not “So tell me about your divorce”!
DON’T BE OVERLY PICKY
Sometimes, being on a dating site can be a bit like being in a sweet shop. You can get seduced by lots glitzy photos and profiles and end up totally ignoring someone who would be completely right for you. It’s easy to get carried away and suddenly find yourself turning people down because they’re blonde not brunette, or they like a different band to you. Would you carry on like that in real life? Did all your previous girlfriends or boyfriends share exactly the same tastes as you in everything? The answer is, probably not and as you might have heard, opposites attract!
TAKE IT EASY
The best online dating site cannot compensate for desperation. It is ugly and people can spot it a mile off. The most important thing you can do is give off the right vibes. Constantly checking your messages or clicking on someone’s profile repeatedly is not going to do you any favours. If someone leaves the conversation or doesn’t call you back, try to take it in your stride. Sending more than one unanswered message smacks of desperation and you really do not want that. In this game, a relaxed demeanour will always win out – there’s attentive and then there is stalking. Don’t get them mixed up!